For those of us with ADHD, feeling different from those around us can sometimes be challenging. We all strive to be accepted and tend to conform to the crowd. That being said, try to remember the immortal words of Frank Zappa when you start to worry about being different with ADHD:
Without deviation from the norm, progress is not possible.
One thing I have learned through my ADHD coach training is that delegating mundane tasks is okay. In fact, delegating tasks I have a hard time doing myself isn’t a weakness, it is a strength. That’s right, I no longer think about the fact that I’m housekeeping challenged and less than consistently organized as shameful flaws. Instead, I use my “visionary” problem-solving brain to find a win-win solution.
For instance, by hiring someone to come into the house to clean once a week, I’m helping the economy by giving someone else work. I’m also spurring myself on to clean myself because, frankly, I have to get ready for the housekeeper – she has to be able to reach the counters and floors after all. Nothing ever gets that bad around the house because there is a consistent cleaning schedule. Best of all, the house gets clean and I’m freed up to work in ways that are more productive for me and mine.
I’m not sure I’ll ever truly understand why I can’t seem to clean the house unless we are expecting a third party or employing a third party, but accepting the truth of the situation gave me the freedom to brainstorm and find a solution to it.